The disclaimer.

I have a feeling that this post may come across almost negative in it’s angle, but I hope by putting this little disclaimer right here in that you’re able to see that I intend for it to be positive.

Also, it’s worth mentioning that for some people, shit really does happen in a huge way and so although the point of this article is to take responsibility for where you are in life, of course there are things that are out of your control.

So with that all out of the way, let’s dive in.


Not much I can do about it.

I’m going to go ahead and use a couple of examples from my personal life here.

When I was a younger fella my goal in the gym was fairly simple.

I wanted to be a massive unit.

I never became the huge monster that I’d visualised but it wasn’t my fault, as I couldn’t afford to eat enough, plus I had some pesky skinny person genetics.

When I became a personal trainer in my early twenties, I envisioned eventually owning my own facility.

That still hasn’t happened ten years later, but that’s because I’ve never been in a financial position to do so, plus the timing has never been quite right.

It’s pretty comforting to think that some things are something or someone else’s fault, as it takes away your own responsibility for where you are at.

The thing is though, a lot of the time those excuses are absolute rubbish.


The world isn’t going to adjust for you.

I didn’t turn myself into a muscly giant when I was younger because I wasn’t willing to put in the work.  The skinny person genes were just an excuse I threw out in advance so I could fall back it when I inevitably didn’t reach the goal.  And as for the food, I seem to remember having no shortage of cash to spend on junk food, alcohol and nights out, so that was nonsense.

I don’t own my dream training facility yet because I didn’t make the sacrifices needed to put myself in a financial position to open one.  In terms of it being the right time, it was simply a case a fear getting in the way.

Saying you’re scared to do something is scary in itself.

Ok, now onto the point of all this.

As comforting as it is to blame something that’s out of your control, the real comfort comes from taking responsibility for yourself and your actions.

Once you’ve taken some responsibility you can then starting asking questions to make adjustments so that you don’t end up here again.

You may even realise that a goal you thought was really important to you isn’t, based on your unwillingness to go after it.

If you continue to blame things that are out of your control, then you’ll feel that there’s no reason to adjust and you’re unlikely to move forward to where you’re wanting to go.


Hopefully you’ve been able to take something away from this, and at the very least it’s got you thinking.


If you have a different take on all this, I’d like to hear about it in the comments below.


If you’ve taken the time to read, I’m always hugely appreciative.


I’ll catch you next time.

One thought on “Who’s to blame?

  1. I agree Tim. I run a weight loss page on Facebook and I often talk about all the crap that goes on around me not being in my control but what I do with my body is. Things can be falling apart but if I have that little bit of control it makes me feel like I’ve got it together. I also hear lots of excuses when people haven’t stuck to their program, whatever that might be. Things like how they love their weekly cuppa and cake catch ups. I say you can have them once at goal if you’re mindful but not while trying to lose. It comes down to choices and how much you really want to change. If you want to change you have to put in the effort. If you’ve slipped up, own it, learn from it and move on!


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